After an argument, the husband gets out of the house angry and heads to his sister's house, and the wife picks up the phone and calls her friend to complain about him, then each returns feeling how strong his position is and how wrong the other party is. If this is the case after every argument, you chose the wrong person to hear your concerns and he chose the wrong way to hear you.https://www.aljazeera.net/news/lifestyle/2022/1/28/حتى-الهموم-لها-آداب-أخطاء-في-التعامل
Dr. Hanan Tantawy, a researcher at the National Research Center in Cairo and one of the founders of the free initiative We Hear You We Support You, which aims to help women and girls deal with life’s stresses, says, “It is difficult when feeling angry to think of the right person to advise. So it is useful to learn. How do I listen to understand my feelings and the feelings of the speaker.Dr. Hanan explained to Al Jazeera Net that people deal with their feelings in 3 wrong ways, and we have to deal with them in 3 correct ways:
Denial: I ignore my feelings all the time, I don't know how to call them, I can't, or I don't want to, the person insists that they are strong and okay and that everything is fine, and this is pervasive and is the effect of the general culture of society that portrays these feelings as defect or weakness. Preoccupation: A person drowns in his feelings without discrimination, as he may feel psychological pressure and fatigue and remain locked up, he can only think of him as a complex web of wool wrapped around his eyes.Reincarnation: reducing the soul to one feeling, such as saying I am so nervous or I am always “afraid.” These feelings are there but you are bigger than this temporary feeling.