Why pain is not synonymous with suffering

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Throughout life we go through difficult times that are inevitable. Suffering, on the other hand, is optional and depends largely on us.

 

SUFFERING has a purpose, but it must also have an end. That psychic pain and suffering walk hand in hand is a temporary necessity, but the former does not always have to involve the latter. When something bad happens to us, it is necessary to “suffer it”, cry it, express it.

People do not exist in isolation. Things happen to us. The environment affects us constantly.

Joy, happiness and well-being, such as suffering, discomfort and bitterness, are not the effect of the isolated event that happens: they are the effect of our way of handling the things that happen to us. How we integrate events in our lives.

We can suffer, be passive to what happens to us, but we can also exercise our capacity for action in the environment, because in the same way that what surrounds us affects us, we affect what surrounds us and define our relationship with it. In these situations there are elements that provide the possibility of sharing, because pain is loneliness.

It is radical loneliness.

You can't define ..., "It's like a thousand needles together in my skin", "It's like a nail in my head", "It's like something is broken inside", "It's like ...". In the same way, intensity can only be measured in reference to oneself, "before it hurt ten and now it hurts seven", but we cannot quantify the pain of others or expect them to fully understand ours.

The most effective way to reduce anxiety when we face the loneliness of pain is to share it. And the best relief, accompaniment, welcome and understanding. But after the acute phase of pain, we are alone before him again.

Emotional pain invites us to be creative, because it forces us to face our loneliness, learn to accept it and live with it. Pain helps us to value well-being, happiness, friendship, health, presence, kiss. That is, based on pain, we acquire the ethical dimension of life. Nothing would have value if we did not know that pain exists. There is no virtue that should not overcome him or his threat.

It is necessary, but if in his inevitable name we turn suffering into the reason of our life, in our identity, we are condemned to be sufferers, nothing but sufferers, to live for and for suffering. That means banishing joy, happiness, and well-being.

The suffering being is a suffering being insofar as he gives himself to suffering.

The suffering being accepts his pain, the cause of his pain and intensity, and introduces him into his life as something else that will always accompany him, which will be part of his biography, his being and his being in the world, but not It will make it the center of your life or your reason for living. The most effective way to reduce anguish when we face the loneliness of pain is to share it. And the best relief, accompaniment, welcome and understanding. But after the acute phase of pain, we are alone before him again.

Emotional pain invites us to be creative, because it forces us to face our loneliness, learn to accept it and live with it. Pain helps us to value well-being, happiness, friendship, health, presence, kiss. That is, based on pain, we acquire the ethical dimension of life. Nothing would have value if we did not know that pain exists. There is no virtue that should not overcome him or his threat.

It is necessary, but if in his inevitable name we turn suffering into the reason of our life, in our identity, we are condemned to be sufferers, nothing but sufferers, to live for and for suffering. That means banishing joy, happiness, and well-being.

The suffering being is a suffering being insofar as he gives himself to suffering.

The suffering being accepts his pain, the cause of his pain and intensity, and introduces him into his life as something else that will always accompany him, which will be part of his biography, his being and his being in the world, but not It will become the center of your life or your reason for living.

 

The suffering being is a suffering being who adds to his misfortune elements that are not intrinsic to pain and are unnecessary. It is neither necessary nor convenient to become someone who only suffers, because this limits their vision of the future from suffering, and not towards life. It is annoying for himself and for those around him.

Do we want suffering to become our hallmark? It's easy to do it: don't think about what happened to you, but what they did to you; Do not enjoy what you have, worry about what you can lose.

The suffering being is installed in reproach, in weakness, in guilt - appropriate or alien -, in bitterness, in self-pity and in the demand for commiseration. Or worse, in the "if I - or another - there were ...". Life is made. What has happened has happened, and it is quite impossible to know what would have happened had the circumstances or the attitude of those involved changed. It is turning feeling into resentment.

Pain emerges from the victim, suffering emerges from victimhood.

The victim is the person, and people are active beings, we are creative, fertile, autonomous, free, capable of action. It is true that when something sad or uncomfortable happens to us, we tend to shrink, to feel incapable, and when what affects us is joyful, the creative power grows in us. In this struggle our life passes, and we can choose between governing it or suffering it.

In the Odyssey the gods assure in assembly: “Oh, oh, how do the mortals blame the gods! For from us, they say, evils proceed. But they too, because of their stupidity, endure pains beyond their due ”.

Indeed, man alone is left over and enough to be miserable.