[LifeStyle] How to Handle a Violent Girlfriend or Wife

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Society often considers men to be the perpetrators of domestic violence. In truth, though, women can be violent, too. If your partner is violent with you, understand that that's abuse—and it's absolutely not okay. Your partner should uplift and love you, not make you feel unsafe. We'll teach you about your rights, about how to protect yourself, and about how to get help. Read on to learn everything you need to know.

Establish safety first. If your spouse acts violently towards you or anyone else in the home, the first thing you need to do is get yourself (and any other innocents) to a safe place. This may be a locked room somewhere else in your home, a neighbor's house, another family member's home or your local police station.[1] If she comes at you, try to shield yourself from harm as much as possible without retaliating as this can cause you to be considered a perpetrator, too. If you have children in the home, alert them to head to your "safety zone" whenever shouting or other signs of violent behavior takes place. If you believe you are in danger, call the emergency services immediately.[2]

Confide in someone you trust. The first step in getting out of a potentially harmful situation is often just letting others know you are in an abusive relationship and you need support and help. Beyond telling someone you trust, it can be helpful to ask them to assist in helping you find a way to leave. You generally need to gather resources, copies of documents and other items as you prepare to leave. A trusted friend can store these items for you. Gather any items you may need to leave like your own cell phone, a separate bank account and legal ID so you are not forced to stay in the home.

Leave the relationship or home if you can. Research your options as far as filing for separation, custody and other legal matters so you can coordinate as needed. If there are children in the home, make a plan for all of you to leave safely, if possible. This plan needs to take into account local laws about custody and what needs to occur so you can take the children with you if that is what you want.[3] Because abuse often follows the same cycle, you may be able to time leaving during a time where your partner thinks everything is “normal” and perhaps less likely to think something is going to happen. If you have to leave during the active abuse, beware this is the time you are most likely to be faced with possible false charges of you being the abuser, or even of getting hurt. Reader Poll: We asked 279 wikiHow readers who’ve been victims of abuse, and 65% agreed that in order to maintain safe boundaries, it's important to block your ex’s number and social media accounts after leaving the relationship


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